So is it totally wrong for me to want to yell at my coworker when she complains about her 16 month old son? I just want to scream "Cherish your child!" She constantly complains about his neediness and not getting enough sleep...she has no idea what it feels like to get so close and then not get the chance to have those experiences. I have to bite my tongue not to say anything. I know she doesn't know what happened. I don't share my loss with many people, especially at work. But I am so tired of hearing "when you become a parent" or "you don't know how it is when you have a child." I just want to smack her. Really not a good start.